December 20, 2025

How My One Word Took Three Tries

At first, my 2026 word was write. I want to write my book, so that felt logical. But very quickly, write started to feel heavy. It came with pressure, expectations, and the quiet question: why aren’t you further yet? 

That wasn’t helpful. It made me tense instead of creative.

So I moved on to focus. That felt better. Focus is practical. It doesn’t demand results, it just asks for attention. One thing at a time. Less noise. Less scrolling. Focus helped me see what I struggle with: staying with something long enough, especially when it’s not clear yet.

And that’s where the real issue showed up. I don’t lack discipline. I lack patience with myself. I’m patient with other people. I’m patient with situations. But when my own process slows down, I get restless. I start pushing. Focus helped me notice that, but it wasn’t the final word.

The word I actually need is patience. Not passive waiting, and not giving up. Patience with my own pace. Patience when things take longer than planned. Patience when January doesn’t come with a clear starting point.

So that’s how I got here. Write was too demanding. Focus was helpful, but not enough. Patience gives me room to stay, even when the road turns out to be longer than expected.

And that’s why it’s my word.

12 comments:

  1. Patience is a great word for the year, Aritha. I know that the one person I'm NOT always patient with is myself. Have a blessed Christmas!

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    1. Thank you, Martha Jane! And apparently I’m wishing you a merry Christmas in 2026... patience clearly applies to my timing as well 😄

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  2. Leuk, ik ben benieuwd hoe dat terug gaat komen in je blogs. Ik vind het ook leuk om een woord (of twee) te verzinnen, maar na een poosje denk ik er niet meer aan en is het jaar nog lang niet voorbij.

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    1. Lieneke 😊 Dat herken ik ook: een woord kiezen is leuk, maar het volhouden is een ander verhaal. Neem gewoon voor elke maand een woord of zo

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  3. That would be a good word for me too.

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    1. It really is one of those words many of us need, isn’t it? Thank you for stopping by. 💛

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  4. O que diz é pura realidade. Escrever é um ato de paciência.
    Abraço de amizade.
    Juvenal Nunes

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    1. Muito obrigado, Juvenal. Sim, escrever realmente pede paciência. Um abraço!

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  5. Oh, I am way behind in reading! Please be patient with me! LOL. I love the word patience, and I pray that God will teach you patience in this new year, without your patience being tried too often. I will be praying with you and God leads you in this process. I am also still toying with a couple of different words, but by midnight tonight I expect it will be settled and I will write about it hopefully tomorrow. In the meantime, I pray you have a blessed and wonderful entrance into the New Year!! See you next year!

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    1. Thank you, Pamela! Being behind in reading sounds very on-theme for Patience 😄 I appreciate your prayers and kindness so much. Wishing you a blessed week.

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  6. Ah Aritha this is a great word...I really reading your insight and thoughts. Perhaps patience is the hardest test of all. I know it is for me. Take care friend. Hugs!

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  7. Thank you, Debbie. I think you’re right — patience may be one of the hardest lessons of all. I appreciate your kind words very much. 💛

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