Patience in Real Life

(January... also known as the month my word started following me around)

My word for this year is Patience.

I know this because it keeps finding me.

If I don’t think about it myself, my husband reminds me.
If he doesn’t, I read about it.
And if that doesn’t happen, my desk calendar will show me a cartoon about... yes: patience!

At this point, I’m pretty sure I chose the right word. Or maybe it chose me.

What makes it funny is the small moment when I suddenly notice it.
Ploink.
Oh yes. That again.

I’m not very impatient with other people. I can wait. I can listen.
But with myself?
Not so much.

I want things to move forward.
I want answers to come quickly.
I want my body, my ideas, and my writing to cooperate.

And when they don’t, my first thought is often: I’ll just stop.
That’s usually when my word shows up again.

Patience.

I write about it in a light way here, but inside it doesn’t always feel light. This word also stays with me during long medical searches, in ongoing conversations with doctors, and in waiting for answers that take much longer than I expected.

So yes, my word is doing its work.
It keeps appearing.
It keeps interrupting me.
And often, it makes me smile when I realize what’s happening.

Ploink.
Oh yes. Patience.

P.S. I made the image with ChatGPT by literally telling it what I wanted — out loud, in quotes, with many small instructions. This is the result. What do you think?

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👉 Curious what other One Words look like? Take a look here: 3 Simple Ways to Begin the Year Gently

How My One Word Took Three Tries

At first, my 2026 word was write. I want to write my book, so that felt logical. But very quickly, write started to feel heavy. It came with pressure, expectations, and the quiet question: why aren’t you further yet? 

That wasn’t helpful. It made me tense instead of creative.

So I moved on to focus. That felt better. Focus is practical. It doesn’t demand results, it just asks for attention. One thing at a time. Less noise. Less scrolling. Focus helped me see what I struggle with: staying with something long enough, especially when it’s not clear yet.

And that’s where the real issue showed up. I don’t lack discipline. I lack patience with myself. I’m patient with other people. I’m patient with situations. But when my own process slows down, I get restless. I start pushing. Focus helped me notice that, but it wasn’t the final word.

The word I actually need is patience. Not passive waiting, and not giving up. Patience with my own pace. Patience when things take longer than planned. Patience when January doesn’t come with a clear starting point.

So that’s how I got here. Write was too demanding. Focus was helpful, but not enough. Patience gives me room to stay, even when the road turns out to be longer than expected.

And that’s why it’s my word.

The Hidden Grace in My One Word

Lisa asked for one insight from our One Word, and as I tried to put mine into a comment, it grew into a full blog of its own.

My One Word abide has been slipping through my fingers lately. Not because I don’t love the word, but because real life has been heavy. Pain, quiet rooms (midlife you know), long days. And strangely enough, these weren’t the days where I sank deeply into Scripture, the way I always imagined I should.

On the good days, I enjoy rich Bible study.
On the hard days… I don’t.
I read a small paragraph. A simple quote. Maybe a page from Max Lucado. And it all feels so thin, so far from what “abiding” is supposed to look like.

Add to that the small heartbreaks. Little things that press unexpectedly on the soul. And I feel myself drift. I worry I’m drifting from Him. I feel like I can’t hold on to the word at all.

But somewhere in that quiet struggle, something has shifted.

I’m starting to see that maybe abide isn’t asking me to hold on harder.
Maybe it’s showing me that Christ is the One who holds on to me.

Even when I’m tired.
Even when I read only a few simple lines.
Even when my prayers feel small and my heart feels flat.

On those days, I come to Him with my mind instead of my emotions, and I whisper, “You will finish Your work in me. You will lead me safely.” And for that day; that really is enough.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for not being “deep” enough on the harder days… please hear this:
You’re not the only one. You’re not failing. And you’re not falling out of His hands.

Sometimes abiding looks quiet, simple, almost fragile.
And yet, it still counts. Because He holds you.

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I’m so grateful for abide in Me. It shaped me in ways I never expected, and it carried me through this year. But it won’t be my word for the new year. The truth of it stays, just not the word itself.

I sense something new coming… maybe trust, maybe go, maybe speak or write. I’m not sure yet. And that’s okay.

Do you already have your One Word for next year?

Abide: A Lamp in the Dusk

The lamps flicker on while the sky is still holding its breath between day and night. Across the street, windows glow like quiet beacons. Further away, the windmill stands clothed in its faithful light, steady against the dusk. 

The season tilts, and with it the world itself seems to lean into shadows — wars and rumors of wars, even the skies above us feel unsettled, airspace violated, restlessness echoing everywhere.

Yet here, in this gathering dusk, another voice rises — softer, steadier than the night: Abide in Me. Remain. Do not drift with the tide of fear. Keep your eyes on Me.

And that is enough. This one lesson keeps deepening: to remain in Him. He is the only light that truly endures.

“When we remain in Him, we do more than survive the shadows — we sparkle with His light, as stars scattered across a midnight sky.”

Keep abiding. In the shifting seasons and the deepening shadows, this is the safest place you can be.

When Slowing Down Becomes a Way to Abide

 Abide 🌿

It’s September. The last time I showed up here was June—and honestly, back then I wasn’t doing too well. A lot has happened since then. I finished the research for my book (yay!), but I also had to learn something new: pacing.

With a body that speeds up when it shouldn’t and crashes when it’s pushed, pacing becomes essential. Step back. Slow down. Stop before you hit the wall. Easier said than done, of course.

And strangely, that’s exactly what abide has been teaching me.

Abiding isn’t only about staying close to the Lord (though that’s the heart of it). It’s also about not running ahead. Not rushing. Not getting swept into the social media frenzy. These days, I’m inching my way through Psalm 27—one word study at a time. Not to share online, not to impress anyone, but just for myself. It feels like re-learning how to chew slowly and savor what God is teaching me.

It’s also about being present—with my husband, with my daughter, and with my boys who are about to hop on a plane to Croatia. Today yes.

Everyone seems busy—sometimes it feels like busyness is its own kind of virus. And honestly… could my symptoms just be side effects of that same virus? Someone should do a study on it. 😉

Although I wasn’t very active here on this blog, I was quite busy on my other three blogs: my faith blog, my photo blog, and my author blog. They’re written in Dutch, but no worries—there’s a translation button on all of them. 

Here are the links if you’d like to visit:

Kostbaar
Frozen Moments
Aritha's Schrijfblog

“Abide in Me… and learn the sacred rhythm of slowing down.”